Dating and education have a whole lot in common– there’s often a whole lot of drama sometimes over silly stuff.
I had the unfortunate incident of overhearing the following over the weekend while waiting in line shopping at the mall:
“I miss you”
“I miss you too!” (gag)
“I know we’re not going out, but we’re almost there, but I’m just letting you know I am spending the night at my friends house tonight.”
“Look, it’s not like that.”
“Oh, so it’s a guy?”
“It’s not like that.”
“Really, then what’s it like?”
“Don’t be like this.” She then walked away, and he started crying. All on a line to pay. Longest. Line. Ever.
I genuinely felt bad for the dude. It was clear that he was very into her. I saw his face just begin to break down. I asked if he was ok, and he filled me in. I mean, what else is to do in the line, right? I couldn’t even use my phone, as it naturally ran out of juice.
The dude had some baggage, well, more baggage than an airport. He had a rough couple of years, and after a previous relationship that ended awfully, he was dipping his toes in the water, trying to get back in the game. He said she was sending text messages on how they wanted to cuddle, hold hands and hang out, and just a few hours later, now she’s spending the night at some dudes house. You saw the pain on this kids face, and there’s nothing you can do for him.
Keep reading, this will tie into education
Let’s face it – guys speculate. Most guys would hear this and they would get a pit in their stomach. I’m assuming girls will see this differently, but for this guy, given this baggage, how could he see it any other way than being bad?
There really wasn’t much to say to the dude, other then it’s time to let go and move on. Be thankful that you didn’t get completely sucked in, and while this incident will most likely cause a sleepless night and some anger, we’ve all been there, and this too shall pass.
So, how does ANY of this tie into education?
Simple. Educators and schools also have a hard time of letting things go and moving on. While there is a difference between tradition / culture and how one educates, educators often mesh the two areas. They feel that if you take one thing away, you’re taking it ALL away. With all of the technological changes, new curricula, new policies, and new ‘everything’ that comes in when a new administrator takes the helm, it’s hard to let it go. But you need to let it go. Holding onto to something that isn’t what’s best anymore isn’t good for anyone.
As a Superintendent, I don’t expect people to just drop 20 years of practice. I do expect slowly letting it go, and focusing on the future, and in the end, what best for our learners.
So, back to ‘the dude’ – I’m thinking he survived a tough night, and perhaps he’ll start to let go… albeit a brief relationship, if you want to call it that. I wish him well, and hope he too will smile and be well during the holiday season.
Educators across the land – please, please, PLEASE… take a leap of faith with a new administrator. Start letting past practices that aren’t working anymore go. Evolve, and engage; all will be happy (and perhaps learn) from it.